Ghar Se Dola Chala Laadli Ka: Biding Farewell
Only parents can truly understand what it is to give a daughter away. Because their little doll, whom they have seen from the time she was a small little bundle of joy grew up so fast that now she is leaving them and going away. Although they always knew that she was bound to go away one day, they always secretly thought that there was a lot of time for that to happen. Was it not just yesterday that she was running around in little pigtails with the other children of the neighborhood playing hide and seek? Time sneaked up on them and they find themselves seeing her away. So painful, it just rips at your heart to know that you are going back to an empty house leaving a little part of your heart behind to become some one else’s.
Mohammed Rafi knew what this pain means. In his private rendition “ghar se dolaâ€¦” which is a Bidai song, he goes through the same ordeal of joy mixed with pain that every father of the bride goes through. In my opinion, he is not a singer as far as this song is concerned. Instead, he is a father, jut like any other father who has a daughter whom he has cherished since she was born. He sang this song at his own daughter’s wedding and the raw emotion runs through the entire song.
He sings about how his darling daughter is leaving and the bitter-sweet emotions he goes through as his pride and joy is leaving him – he is happy, but is overcome with emotion. He cries and the only other person who can understand what he is going through, is his wife. His little nymph is long gone and replaced by this beautiful girl on her way to become a woman. She leaves her home to make someone else’s home bright, but she leaves behind the shadow of her absence.
Trying to be encouraging, he tells her that she was just a treasure which belonged to someone else; he was merely taking care of it. All he wishes now is that she is happy forever. Praying to God, he begs for her well being and good health. He tells his daughter that she should be happy as she has found her prince charming. Urging her to compose herself and not weep over leaving them. He bids her adieu and cries his heart out at losing the most important thing in his life.
The song has been composed by Majrooh Sultanpuri, and there are actually no words to describe how he has managed to capture the several emotions a father goes through. Undoubtedly, he has been in the same position because he could not have been more accurate.
Rafi Saab has also handled the music for this traditional song and it fits the mood perfectly.
When you hear this song, you imagine yourself as the father and the loss he feels so acutely, because he will never see the little angel who leaves him. She will be replaced by a wonderful woman and though that is what he wants, somewhere within his heart, he wants to hold on to his little girl forever. By the end of the song, you will find silent tears coursing down your cheeks. Such is the beauty in this song.
Download: Ghar Se Dola Chala Laadli Ka
Album: Bidaai Geet
Music: Mohd Rafi
Lyrics: Majrooh Sultanpuri